4 januari

"I think that one thing I've learned is that there doesn't have to be loneliness in being alone, and you can find romance in your life even if you're not involved in a romance. You know, life can be beautiful and spontaneous and surprising and romantic and magical, without you having some love affair happening.  You can replace all of those feelings you used to have when you were enamored with someone with being enamored with your friends, enamored with learning new things and challenging yourself. And living your life on your own terms.

I never understood it when people would say "oh, you know, in your twenties you just need to be alone". I never quite got it cause they would never explain to me that it's so important to defy yourself on your own terms. If you think about when you're in love, that persons opinion affects your opinions and everything you do goes through this filter of " how would they feel about it?". Because if you're a caring person and you're in love then that's what you do. But there's something really wonderful about changing your life- if you want to. Cutting your hair short- if you want to. Moving to New York- if you want to. Changing directions of your entire creative outlook- if you want to. And having it only to be on your own terms."